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Your How To Source: Issues of Value, Ethics, Human Needs and Deeds       Edited by Heinz Dinter, PhD

You cannot do it alone (2006-08-31)

I introduce myselfChoose
and Lose


There is this to be said in favor of drinking,
that it takes the drunkard first out of society,
then out of the world.
Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803-1882)
American essayist and poet

How true, practical and fair is the following? “You alone can do it, but you cannot do it alone.” It's supposedly an awakening call for the one who's facing demise.

It is downright the proclamation of the end if the one who’s suffering from the ugliness of alcoholism is neither physically nor mentally capable to make that prudent, life-saving decision. How can you expect someone with his hands tied behind his back shake your hand? That sufferer needs help, beginning with making that crucial decision.

Now let me tell you about you — yes, YOU — and Julie (I changed her name because to her privacy is more important than saving her own life and living in a state of denial is paramount). We all commingled as “friends” whilst life was good, without dark clouds, with days of pleasurable encounters, and without the hardships of facing complications and responsibilities.

Then Julie's life spun out of control; she did not do it on purpose. Two and three bottles of wine a day, sometimes more, left this beautiful human being vulnerable — vulnerable to an ugly, painful death; vulnerable to the greed of family; and vulnerable to the avarice of those hired to serve her. Julie found herself at the mercy of persons of a rapacious nature.

And the risks of DUI apprehension, coupled with an unavoidable night in jail, cirrhosis of the liver or worse, killing innocent people on the road, are known to all.

YOU ALONE CAN DO IT. Unfortunately, Julie, you don’t.

BUT YOU CANNOT DO IT ALONE. Unfortunately, we cannot do it because you don’t.

Julie, You MUST do it. You must save your health, your life. You can do it with help. But who is there to help?

You can help. It takes compassion. Simply professing family loyalty or friendship will not suffice unless you are willing to face the pain of watching someone die too soon.

Here is the life that once was nice

For gracious Julie the vibrant player

Who now is face to face with her demise

Unless there’s more than empty prayer.


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